The Consequences of Extra Marital Affairs.

The Consequences of Extra Marital Affairs.
 

A world where Individuals are never satisfied, where the desire to be fulfilled is inumerous and where individuals are no longer valuing even their matrimonial bed and the covenant of Love they made out of their own will.

. Extra marital affairs have been legalized in most discourses and individuals have since stopped seeing this act as Adultery. The same has great impact on the Family and the Individual's life.

The reasons for cheating could be innumerable. In almost all cases, the cheating partner does not pay attention to what can easily leave the relationship in mayhem. Certainly, the effects of extra-marital affairs are devastating and victims may take long to get over the misery. Infidelity can occur even in the strongest of marital relationships. An extra-marital challenges the sanctity and strength of a relationship, causing turmoil in personal and social world of people.

There are many reasons for cheating, usually it is done without much thought or consideration of the effects it can have on the other person. However, the effects can be devastating and take a long time to get over and work through.

It is important that you address these effects, and find ways to work through them. Build a support network of family and friends, your clergy, professional counselors, or anyone else you can trust to help you overcome these effects and move on to a better future.

Extramarital affair seems like a very common phenomenon these days. However, even when an affair seems to be working, it will eventually cause severe damage.
The worst thing with extramarital affairs is that they usually ruin the life of a person who did nothing wrong. It is also the leading cause of divorce throughout the world.

Even when a partner is able to forgive the cheating partner nothing feels like good old times. It is very common for partners trying to forget the extramarital affair of their partner even after several years. A relationship outside marriage always has devastating consequences.

Lack of Trust:
Trust lays the strong foundation of every relationship. A disloyal spouse kills the trust of the
loyal partner making it difficult to trust the cheating partner once again. Getting over
from the shock of an extra-marital affair is the toughest thing to do. Causes of extra-marital
affair by ex-spouse become a baggage for the victim, who cannot forget the devastating
experience of infidelity and enters into a self-victimization mode.

Psychological Effects
The one who commits adultery with a woman is lacking sense; He who would destroy himself does it. Wounds and disgrace he will find, And his reproach will not be blotted out. For jealousy enrages a man, And he will not spare in the day of vengeance. Proverbs 6:32-34

The first thing that the biblical text alludes is that one who does this lacks no sense, in other words the same lacks understanding. Secondary, by committing the act one destroys one’s soul. The fact that no one knows about it, will comfort you but you will forever have a weak and damaged soul, personality. One becomes unstable, in the heart, as evidenced by

Extra-marital affairs can cause a ripple effect in your life. You may find yourself looking differently at your job, your friends, your life choices. This can be either positive or negative, but most victims of an affair say that it brought on changes in all other areas of their lives. It’s important that you not make changes to major areas of your life while in the midst of the emotional turmoil that accompanies an affair

 Damage to Self Esteem:
The person who has been cheated on will suffer a blow to his or her self esteem. They may have the usual thoughts of, “Was I not enough?” or “If I hadn’t let myself go this would not have happened.” Just as children tend to blame themselves for their parents’ divorce, many victims of an affair respond to an affair by blaming themselves. The decision to cheat was not yours, and although their have been problems in the relationship, you did not make the decision to have an affair. Chances are it had much more to do with a deficiency in your partner than in you.

For on account of a harlot one is reduced to a loaf of bread, And an adulteress hunts for the precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom And his clothes not be burned? Or can a man walk on hot coals And his feet not be scorched? Proverbs 6:26-29

Extra- Extramarital affair will reduce one to a loaf of bread, this implies that such relationships reduces an honorable man to become valueless, there is left nothing to admire in a one who is committing such act. It affects your individual life and will damage your worth. The problem with everyone who cheats is that they anticipate that if they are not caught then all is well, not knowing that each day they are depreciating value, life is being impacted wrongly and your own family is at risk of collapsing.

The adulteress you think loves you, actually after your soul and life. Proverbs says the adulteress hunts for the precious life. Time is the only factor that will tell but this is a sure saying whatever is done in secrete will sure come out to the open, because no one can take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned or can walk on hot coals and his feet not scorched. There are consequences that follows all our actions, in this case that which is done in secret will surely come out in public.

Isolation
Even an extrovert and outgoing person can turn to complete isolation after suffering extramarital affairs of their spouse. The pain and emotional stress disconnects them from their social circle. It changes a victim’s perception of everything. They feel utter despair and loneliness in all the areas of their life. 

Family Breaks
It is not easy to work out things following an extramarital affair how hard you try. You may have decided to stick together but it is difficult to overcome feelings of distrust. Intimacy in relationship takes a back seat. Regaining trust remains a big challenge for couple trying to resolve.

There will not take part in the Kingdom of God
The Biblical narratives states that there will not inherit the Kingdom
Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals,

Paul in writing encouraging the church of Corinth he highlighted that such life will not be allowed to operate in the Kingdom of God. Furthermore in Hebrews the writer eluded that Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Not only will they not be able to operate and inherit the Kingdom God the eternal King will Judge them.

There is a way out to this crisis, it starts with true repentance of the heart, and believe in Christ Jesus to be your source and life..Allow the word of the lord to be part of you and to be your Principles to live with. Be faithful to the end, faithfulness is birthed out of true love.